foodpusherYou walk into the annual holiday party with a plan in place. You will stick to the veggie tray, pick one special dessert and have only one drink. You’ll stay away from the food table and enjoy the conversation instead of the sugar. You’ve got this. You aren’t going to fall victim to the holidays again this year.

If only it were that easy. The second you walk in the door Auntie Mae puts her famous pecan pie right under your nose and begs you to have a piece because she made it “just for you.”

You fill your tray up high with veggies. Your brother takes one look before loudly exclaiming “That’s all you’re eating? Are you on a diet or something?” causing everyone to turn and stare at your plate…and in your mind, your weight.

Your friend brings you a shot and a huge plate of cookies and says, “Come on, it’s a holiday! That means cheat day!”

You might think they have the best intentions and just want you to be happy, and in Auntie Mae’s case, you are probably right, but some of them don’t. And that’s OK, it’s only natural and you are probably guilty of it in some way or another yourself. Some people don’t like to see others succeed, because it makes them look at themselves. Perhaps your friend wants a partner in crime so she doesn’t feel so guilty standing next to you with your plate of veggies when hers is piled with fudge.

Don’t give in to the food pushers. Don’t let guilt lead you into making a decision you know you shouldn’t make. Where does it leave you? With more guilt. Politely extricating yourself from situations where food pushers, good intentioned or otherwise, lurk is almost an art, and your strategy may change based on who’s pushin’.

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